1. save from a fire?
2. have taking care of me if I was sick?
3. spend a week alone with?
4. sneak into bed with?
5. booty call?
6. cook a romantic dinner for?
7. get drunk with?
8. tell my secrets?
9. go on a roadtrip with?
10. take care of if they were ill?
11. never talk to again?
12. drunkenly marry?
13. propose to?
14. commit a crime with?
15. have as my best friend?
16. have a threesome with?
17. cook for me?
19. teach me something?
20. have a baby with?
21. never have met?
Based on my understanding of asexuality, I think this type of character would fall under the umbrella of asexuality. I think it’s really up to your character to identify his own sexuality and where he falls on the spectrum, though. There is no defined set of standards that need to be met in order to identify as asexual, so there’s no way to say for sure. Basically, if your character considers himself asexual, then he is asexual.
As for your character being offensive, I can’t give you an answer. I am not asexual and, therefore, have no authority to determine whether something is offensive to the asexual community. Asking a few people who identify themselves as asexual and take their opinion into consideration would probably be the best way to answer your question.
If anyone that identifies as asexual believes my answer is wrong, please correct me. I don’t want to spread misinformation.
Here’s a follow up response for the previous anon. Thanks!
welcome to womens clothing where the sizes are made up and the measurements don’t matter
Whoa this sounds like a super cool concept?? I would read this??
(I don’t totally know what you mean by ‘completely asexual’ though? Like, d’you mean aro and ace? Someone who’s asexual and sex repulsed? Someone who’s demisexual and really hardcore about it? An asexual person that won’t have sex even when offered cool magic powers? There are as many ways to be asexual as there are asexual people, so I don’t really know what ‘completely asexual’ would mean!)
Aright okay, okay. My expert opinion is kinda limited since I only consider myself something like a tin or copper star ace, and obviously I don’t speak for everybody, but lemme tell you what I think.
Everyone exists on a sort of sliding scale of how comfortable with themselves they are. Think of, say, looks for example. Even if you’re happy with your physical appearance, some days you’ll just think ‘wow, I look like a crusted over piece of snot in a beached seal’s nose’, put on a dirty tee shirt, and feel unattractive (and vice versa). I think how confident in ourselves we are can really depend on the situation, and how we’re feeling at that moment.
So, from what I can tell from this message, your character actually sounds pretty normal for his situation! If people are constantly telling him that he’s broken, it’s not surprising if sometimes he’s forced to wonder if he is broken. And what a pain it’d be that the magic is totally set up against him! I think that, under the circumstances, him being able to be mostly comfortable with himself and think that there’s nothing wrong with him most of the time probably took some work and courage. Which is pretty relatable! Between hyper-sexualized media, parents making passive-aggressive remarks about never being grandparents, and being told that they ‘just haven’t found the right person’ in the real world, I’m sure asexual humans could sympathize with an asexual character doing their best to be comfortable with themselves in what sounds like possibly an even more adverse setting.
In summary: Just your character normally feeling happy and good with their identity but being frustrated with a world that’s stacked against them isn’t offensive- if anything, it’s pretty realistic. Where you could fall into trouble is how you handle the situation and your writing. Sliding into clichés or stereotypes, or framing your writing to make it seem like there IS something wrong with him would be a problem. You get what I’m getting at? The setup isn’t inherently problematic at all, far as I can tell- so what will make or break the book is how you write it. So write your book the best you can, for starters! Then, you can ask some people to read it over and give you their impressions. If there are problematic elements that they point out, you can then fix them. You’ll probably fuck up some- but rather than not writing about it because you’re worried you’ll fuck it up, why not go ahead and do it, and then correct yourself and learn from where you fucked up in the first drafts?
Go for it!
ESTP: super attractive physically but it’s all downhill from there. never quite know what they’re going to do next but you can probably bet it will be irresponsible. somehow still lovable.
ESTJ: loud, logical, and get shit done — they are the warrior class of the life rpg. power stats make them unbeatable and if you encounter one, maybe just curl up and forfeit, to save time.
ESFP: giggly little shits. fun fun fun till her daddy takes the t-bird away. great for lifting your mood, not that great at lifting your credit score.
ESFJ: too appropriate, totally lacking in awkwardness. they’ll never forget your birthday, which will make you feel like shit when you constantly forget theirs.
ENTP: excellent companions if you enjoy people who instantly see through all your shit. very clever and very intuitive, you can’t fool them. i suggest you invest in other friends — ones you *can* fool.
ENTJ: impatient with people who make mistakes, namely, everyone. they’ll respect you if you stand up to them but why do that when you can run away instead. cuddle them and see what happens. i’m curious.
ENFP: too puppy to live. best suited for the profession of musical nanny. not advised for use around an open flame.
ENFJ: way too charming and capable, maybe they should stop making everyone else look bad. prone to making other people care about stuff they didn’t want to care about. so annoying.
ISTP: such butts. best suited for an apocalypse scenario, if no such scenario exists, they will create danger because they get bored. don’t encourage them, but don’t discourage them, as reverse psychology works too well.
ISTJ: low drama and low maintenance, best value at this price tier. best suited to actual human existence. least weird, which makes them kinda weird.
ISFP: squishy little darlings you might want to keep in your pocket, but please don’t or they will become forlorn. they notice everything, and it’s unnerving.
ISFJ: quietly and proudly do things for others. if you have a ring you need to deliver to mordor, take an ISFJ along with you for best results.
INTP: cute intergalactic spiders you want to hug and mistrust. prone to making you laugh but then days later you will wonder whether you were the butt of the joke.
INTJ: major dicks and kinda proud of it. prone to being right. prone to liking trance music way too much. all the ones i’ve ever met have been unexpectedly kinky. so i guess, expectedly.
INFP: they fall out of the sky and are raised by unicorns. if you feed one it will follow you home. they dissipate in water.
INFJ: chameleons appropriating your emotions and going quietly mad. prone to meltdowns and needing lots of naps.