*two girls kiss*
straight people: i just think it’s so amazing that they would do that, you know. as friends
*two girls have sex*
straight people: female friendship is amazing
*two girls get married, buy a house, have some kids*
straight people: what better way to grow old than to do it with your best friend
Literally no one thinks this
- cara delevigne and michelle rodriguez being called ‘gal pals’ (they’re dating)
- ellie and riley’s kiss in the last of us: left behind labeled as ‘platonic’
- "I did a picture in my Basic Illustration class once of my new lesbian couple characters. They weren’t doing anything in the picture aside from looking exasperated at one another, but I CLEARLY stated to the teacher repeatedly that they were a couple (we were discussing how to show relationships between characters via props, expressions, etc.) However, without fail, every single time he mentioned the characters he called them “sisters”. It annoyed the fucking crap out of me." (x)
- "Ugh. Ugh. I can’t even count the number of times my girlfriend has been reduced to my best friend while fully knowing the situation, instead choosing to acknowledge it the way that their warped minds see fit. fuck." (x)
- "This is 100% true. “So, how’s your friend?” “Fiancée” “Yeah, friend, how’s your friend?” “…”" (x)
- “The way that this is worded is hilarious to me because my great aunt actually bought a horse, raised kids, and has lived with the same woman for 30 years, and the majority of my family still refers to them as “good friends”.” (x)
- "There’s this guy at the 7/11 that is down the street from us that ALWAYS asks where my “good friend” is. I correct him every time and say “you mean my wife?” He just nods.
One time after I corrected him he said “so she’s wife, does that make you husband?”
I looked at him like he was utterly stupid and said “no. We’re both girls. I’m her wife.”
I just uuuugh. Fucker.
The next time he asks about my “good friend” I intend to just go off on him and refuse to step foot in that 7/11 again.” (x)
just a few of the many
"literally no one"
This will probably sound really annoying but… researching is literally what you have to do. There is no magical formula that will show you how to successfully and inoffensively write a ‘triggering’ topic.
Those who experience things like abuse, rape or suicidal thoughts are the number one authority on those topics respectively. They have lived the experience, they know how it feels, what kind of things are likely to happen as a result, how these things happened in the first place… Additionally, all stories are individual and as a writer, you should be prepared to thoroughly amass individual opinions and experiences to get the most holistic view possible of the topic you’re researching.
As with all things in life, there will be consistencies but don’t assume all experiences are the same.
Also: don’t romanticise. When you romanticise something, you look at it through rose-tinted glasses and you portray it to look more appealing than it actually is. Therefore, a reader with no previous experience on the topic learns to view the subject in that way and they then struggle to understand how the issue can be a negative thing at all.
It’s damaging, not only to the recipient (who will then perpetuate an ignorant opinion/outlook) but to those who have really lived the experience and find themselves misrepresented.
Watch this advert. I feel it sums up perfectly how damaging misrepresentation can be. Whilst it does not focus on a ‘triggering’ topic, it does show you how poor research and a lack of desire to properly represent a particular group people (i.e. by relying on old tropes/stereotypes) can negatively impact on an individual.
So, I’m sorry to disappoint you, Anon, but research is key.
I hope this helps…
a CEO walks into his office “any messages?” he asks his assistant
“two anons want to know who tom petty is and one just says ‘post your ballsack’”
“got it. check my dashboard”
“that skeleton gif you like is back again”
he rubs his chin pensively “mm. reblog that”
ugh i want to get really uncomfortably rich and then just. go around and anonymously donate huge amounts of money to people for things like HEY youre trying to move away from your abusive parents?? BAM 10 thousand mystery dollars oh whats that your dog needs surgery?? BAM paid for hey you cant afford to go to that con with your friends?? BAM better get your cosplay ready you fucking nerd